Whether it’s about home schooling vs. out of the home school, co-sleeping vs. crying it out, or time out vs no time out there are always 2 sides to these arguments. My least favorite topic the dreaded breastfeeding vs. I don’t know who because I don’t know of anyone actually telling people not to breastfeed?
Back on track Theresa.
There is always some sort of Mommy War going. I’m here to share a secret with you. Ready for this…
THERE IS NO DOCTORATE IN PARENTING!
There are no parenting experts. If someone tells you they’re a parenting expert please ask to interview their perfect adult children. You do what works best for you and your family. You find your support group of Moms and together you take on this crazy journey that is parenting.
This week one of my support group members was asked for her opinion on breastfeeding. Of course she’s all for it! Like I said earlier, has anyone out there ever really met someone who tells them not to breastfeed their baby? Unfortunately she made a comment on a local news segment that upset a few breastfeeding activist. These ladies went out gathered their troops and pounced. I’ll let you read about it for yourself over on the Mama Mary Show site.
My original comment on Mary’s site yesterday was this…
This is my least favorite subject. I hate that vocalizing our discomfort and desire for other to cover up is looked at with such disdain. You want me to hear you and your breastfeeding knowledge, but yet you don’t want to hear me.
I’m all for breastfeeding anywhere, but I’m also all for discretion. It does make the majority uncomfortable, but they stay quiet. Why? Because they’re afraid of being berated. Just look at the comments that flowed after this segment aired. Some gathered the troops and ganged up on these 3 ladies.
Look, I would fight for your right to breastfeed in public. I would protest, scream and yell for you to be allowed to do so, but after I was done doing that, I’d also quietly ask politely to just cover up.
Well the comments that have continued to flow have done exactly what I expected they would do. With comments like
Do you like to sit under a blanket to eat? I know I wouldn’t. Paula it is ignorant of you to say that we should cover up.
So Paula is ignorant because she suggested discretion? Poor Paula really got lit up. Sorry Paula!
Paula. Your opinion is shit, regardless to how much you think you are entitled to it.
So now opinions that don’t agree with this breastfeeding activist are shit.
Instead of judging and telling moms to ‘COVER UP’, let’s be supportive and smiled that a mother chose to breast fed her child despite how much you hated it.
Now they’re just making stuff up, because I’m 100% positive no one in the comments said they hated anyone for breastfeeding.
judged for not covering in public
Again, making stuff up. No one said they were judging people for not covering up. I do believe they said it made them uncomfortable. That’s not judging you, that’s just a confession of how they are feeling.
So sorry if my boobies offend you. My daughter will not nurse under a blanket, or even my shirt. She pushes it up! (Thanks for letting me be “discreet” baby lol) So, by some of those ignorant comments, I shouldn’t feed my daughter at all?
Yes that’s exactly what they’re saying, stop feeding your daughter. Really? And you’re calling the other comments ignorant?
Over and over the word support was thrown around.
except lots of moms want to breastfeed and do not have support. that the problem.
well i want to BF and i have for 6 months and everyday i find it a struggle to get support. Where is my support?
Really? Where is your support? Are you not reading all the nasty comments your supporters are leaving? If you found Mary’s article, this means you probably found it through a breastfeeding support group on facebook, the leaky boob, or any number of breastfeeding support groups online.
Never ever I have read anywhere, heard on a news program, or have been to a hospital that is telling you not to breastfeed. As a matter of fact, I’m pretty sure everyone is admitting that breast is best. The hospital where I had my children you actually had to sign a document before you were admitted if you didn’t want to breastfeed. They automatically send a lactation consultant in to visit with everyone.
No one is telling you not breastfeed in public. As a matter of fact, like I said, I would fight for your right to do so. All anyone said was that it makes some uncomfortable and those people would prefer that you use a hooter hider or be discreet about it. You don’t have to do this. You can go right ahead and do as you please, you have that right.
The biggest problem I have with this Mommy War is that one side is so caught up in their movement that they start arguments where there aren’t any. They scream for their rights to be heard, but yet turn a deaf ear to those who want to support them even through their discomfort. Your name calling, your berating and your self-righteousness is why you lose supporters.
Suggestion, why not listen to what the other side has to say. They’ve heard you. They have admitted you have the right. Why not acknowledge their discomfort with understand rather than disdain? You don’t need to do anything to make them more comfortable, but maybe just acknowledging it rather than bashing them might defuse the situation a little.
Now I must go and make a bottle. Yes I said it.