If this isn’t your first visit to my site, you might have noticed a brand new look.
For those of you who come to this site seeking information on raising those lovely eye-rolling-door-slamming teens and tweens of yours, rest assured that will still be a MAJOR part of this site. It is something I enjoy talking about, something I have quite a bit of experience in and a phase I desperately want to help you navigate with humor, because without it, these years will drive you full speed to crazyville.
That said, I feel as if I have been at a cocktail party for six years and all I have talked about is my kids.
As I face down the first of my beautiful babies leaving the nest this August and allowing him to begin the first chapter of his life and the end of my parenting of him (though I plan to continue to haunt him as often as possible, I’ve earned it) I want and need to spend time enjoying some of the other pieces of my soul that fulfill me as a woman. I love to cook, I love to travel and I want to write (which aside from my children and my husband is my greatest passion) about things that aren’t just centered around being a mom. I have unwritten novels and books that have been screaming at me in my sleep.
I want to talk about life at 40ish as a woman. What it’s like to slowly watch your face and body change and what that means to me. Which at it’s best is a realization that it doesn’t matter and at it’s worst a sob fest that requires chocolate, wine and botox to keep me afloat. I want to talk about how empowering it feels to be of an age where the term “woman” finally feels as if it defines me and it’s not for other woman I watch from a distance wondering why they are so confidant. And? At the same time how I can walk into a room of powerful women and feel as if I am the 13 year old girl I was all those years ago whose parents shopped at garage sales for my clothes and no matter how strong I felt two minutes ago, feel the need to flee. I want to begin sharing what it means to confront that time when your kids are starting to leave. I want to tackle the issues we face as moms and women and how to support and not tear down.
The new tagline says it all, Someday your kids will start to fly away and you will be left with being a woman.
Being a woman is something I have always held my breath to become and now here I am. I’m not saying that when you are a mom you aren’t a woman, but I am saying as someone who is seeing the writing on the wall of giving up the years of raising kids, becoming a woman without being a mom at the same time is a new chapter. It forces one to focus more on their woman-ness and less on their mom-ness.
I was a young lady (and I use the term lady loosely) before I had my children. Raising my kids has taught me so much about myself and what I want to contribute to the world and women around me. Being a mom has given me purpose. Now, as my mom-ness begins to fade, I will turn that purpose towards giving back, redefining myself, creating the next chapter, the next me. So stay tuned for conversations on parenting teens, cooking, traveling and Things I Love. But look for the “Opinion” posts. Those will be the posts that most define who I am becoming as a woman.
I hope you will join me on my journey.