Listening and talking are learned behaviors. How your children will communicate with others and you is something they are learning from you. Are you talking with and listening to them every day? About things that don’t matter, not just peppering them with questions? Is your homework done? Is your room clean? Did you do what I asked you to do?
When they are teens it is UNBELIEVABLY important that your teens trust you to listen when they talk. They need to be able to come to you and talk about both the meaningless and the meaningful.
Start young and create an atmosphere of conversation in your home.
I am 17 years into parenting and my teenagers talk with me. Often and about all topics. The reason they do is because I have been talking, asking and listening to them for years. Talk with your kids, do it often, you will reap the rewards when it matters most.
Life After Home
1. What percentage of the money you get from family, work, etc., do you think you should put in savings?
2. Why is saving money important?
3. When you get older, what is it important for you to own? House? Car? What kind of car? Do you know what you want your house to look like? Where would you ideally live?
4. How much money do you think you will need to make to own those things?
5. Do you think college is necessary to make the kind of money you want to make? Why or why not?
6. What is the most important thing about going to college?
7. If you don’t go to college, what will you do?
8. If you could pick any job in the world, and I could snap my fingers and you would be AMAZING at it, what job would it be?
9. How do you plan on having spending money when you are in college? How much do you think you will need every week?
10. What is the most exciting thing about heading out on your own one day? What is the least exciting?