When most people find out they’re pregnant they want to scream it from the mountain tops. Just this past weekend I had a hairstylist chat me up about my upcoming due date.
Hairstylist – When are you due?
Me – 3 very long weeks from now.
Hairstylist – Oh, yes I know that feeling.
Me – Oh? Do you have kids?
Hairstylist – No but I got pregnant last night and I’m feeling bloated, retaining water, uncomfortable, bla bla bla bla bla
I tuned her out at that point because in my head I’m screaming, WAIT, WHAT? Last night? Ok, so maybe I’m exaggerating and she was a little further along, but still. This girl was about the size of my forearm and I’m sure I have shoes older than she is. I would have never guessed that she was pregnant, let alone retaining water.
She then goes on to tell me that she told everyone at her salon when she was only 3 weeks along. She couldn’t understand why they thought it was weird that she was sharing this news so early on.
I’ll be honest, I’m with her salon coworkers. Even when we found out about Zach at 18 weeks, we waited a few weeks before telling anyone. We definitely didn’t tell anyone about any of our pregnancies until we had an ultrasound. Actually, now that I think of it, we didn’t really make announcements until we knew if we were having a boy or girl.
Ok, so maybe I’m a little superstitious, maybe that one part of my life I’m a little private about or maybe I’m just trying to figure out how I actually feel about being pregnant. Regardless our reason, no one should be offended or hurt because it really has nothing to do with anyone, but us.
Either way, if she wants to share she’s pregnant 9 hours after conceiving, that’s totally her prerogative. Just not my thing.
Next popular question “Do you know what you’re having?”
Yes, I’m totally having a girl.
Followed up with “What are you naming her?”
I have a standard response? I lie. “We don’t have a name yet.”
What I’m really thinking is, “We totally have a name and I’m not telling anyone.”
Why don’t I share the name? For a number of reasons.
1. I find it incredibly creepy when people talk to my stomach and use the name. I mean, it’s a stomach! Why are you calling my stomach by another name? Stop talking to my stomach!
2. I’ve actually shared a name that my husband and I really loved only to have a family member tell us it was an awful name and we shouldn’t use it. From that very moment, we decided we’re not telling anyone any names.
3. It’s our little secret!
4. What if we change our minds?
5. Did I mention before that I might be superstitious? I don’t like to buy anything with the baby’s name monogrammed on it and I don’t want anyone else to. It’s almost like I’m jinxing the thing if she’s named before she’s born.
I’m not sure why people get so
nosey curious about new babies. While the name question seems pretty standard, other questions get way to personal. I think I’ll save those for another post.