This week I’m in Connecticut with my Aunt, Uncle and cousins who all happen to be boys. 5 and 10 twins. My husband and I love these boys! As a matter of fact, my husband loves these boys so much and he’s asked me if I’d like to have son. WHAT?
Ok, I’m getting distracted…
Last month my dear friend Stefanie wrote a post that I now have a new found understanding, respect, and love for. You see, Stefanie also has 3 boys and is “grooming” these beautiful young men to be the perfect husbands. Stefanie was even kind enough to think ahead and penned a letter to her future Dauthers-In-Law and I would like to share that with you.
I have thought of you often and what you might look and act like. I have done the numbers and while I am no mathematician I realize there will be three of you. That is bad news for me. You will all be comparing notes. “Did she clear his plate and leave yours when you were there?” or “OMG. She ironed his BOXERS.” or “What in the hell kind of polyester matching ensemble was she wearing?” Yes. I know your kind.
Being a woman that always has a plan, I have prepared for you. As a matter of fact, it has become my life’s mission to work daily towards paying you back. In advance. Because I am clear that once you have your meat hooks in my boys, you will hold the power. But. Guess what girlies? Until then, I do.
Why, just yesterday I realized my oldest son had absolutely NO IDEA how to work the washing machine. Mortified, I reminded myself that I swore when I birthed those three boys I would not raise helpless husbands. So. I marched him into the laundry room to show him how to use the machine.
Then this little thought bubble popped into my head of you sweetly convincing him that it is fine if he doesn’t come home for Christmas for the THIRD YEAR in a row because it’s just so far and your parents REALLY need you. I looked at my sweet boy, wrapped my arms around him and said, “Sweetie. You go play xbox. Mama will get this.”
Similarly I have decided not to EVER let them cook. One of them recently asked me how to make a hot dog. “Oh honey,” I replied. “I will get that for you.” It would have been so easy to teach him how to boil water. But. You can do that. Right after you convince him to use YOUR mother’s middle name instead of mine for the sweet baby girl you are expecting. Anne is a lovely name. It would do you good to remember that.
You should know that I cook a chef style meal almost every evening for my boys. They have come to expect it. All of them are particularly fond of my enchiladas. A recipe you will never have. But one I will cook. Every. Single. Time. You are here. You will notice my fake smile directed at you as my aproned self places the enchiladas on the table to the mouth watering delight of my sweet baby boys. “You should make these at home, Sarah. Your husband loves them.” Additionally. I make their breakfast. And their lunches. Every day.
One final thing. I strongly encourage all of the boys to throw their wet towels on the floor and that it is perfectly acceptable to remove items of clothing and just leave them right where they’re standing. I enjoy putting their clothes in the hamper. Oh. Also. They don’t make their beds, they NEVER put their clean clothes away (I do silly), have been known to complain if I don’t turn their socks right side out and you will need to encourage them to shower and brush their teeth daily. Oh. Sorry. One more thing. At night, just before you turn out the lights. It will be VERY important for you to remind them how wonderful they are and how TRULY grateful you are to have them.
So ladies. Say what you will about me. I have planned for it and gotten my revenge early so that I can travel the world with my husband after the boys are in your care. I will sip mai tai’s poolside and just giggle while you all are knee deep in laundry and dishes and dirty diapers. But remember. I love you. Because you love my son.
AND THIS my dear readers, is why men are the way they are.
Stefanie Mullen is the mother of three boys — 2 teens and a preschooler. She writes about living life in a locker room at www.ooph.com. Stefanie is also the coauthor of Chicken Soup for the Girlfriend?s Soul.