Negativity is everywhere! We’re all guilty of spilling it out into the Universe. At least I know that I can be. Especially when it comes to internet. I think it maybe easier to write when you’re venting.
For awhile I thought it maybe me, but I see it everywhere. All the negative comments on Facebook status updates, Twitter post, venting blog post, or maybe just under someones breath.
How many time do you find yourself complaining about someone else. Could be a stranger, a politician, a celebrity, a friend, or even family member. It could be something as little as “I can’t stand her shoes” or even as big as “she’s a bitch.”
It’s easy to point out what you don’t like about someone, especially when they don’t hear you. It’s even harder to point out something you like about someone, even when they can’t hear you.
We’ve all been guilty of it.
I’m not holding anyone at fault. Nor am I point fingers, because like I said, I’m at fault too.
So I’ve been thinking…
They say happiness begets happiness, so wouldn’t that mean negativity begets negativity? If you put negative vibes out into the world, shouldn’t you expect to get negative vibes back?
So I’m going to pose a challenge to myself and you this week. No negative post, no negative tweets, no negative facebook status updates and no negative whispers about anyone, friends or strangers.
Does this mean your status updates need to be “My life is so wonderful” everyday? No, but how about, “beautiful start to my morning” or “already got my work out in today, ran out of gas and had to walk 2 miles to the gas station.”
When someone cuts you off, rather than screaming at them, why not just brush it off to their mistake and be done with it. Is it really worth the aggravation?
Encounter a grumpy person, why not smile at them and wish them better day. You can only blame yourself if you let them get to you.
I’m going to be realistic about this challenge though. I know that I can’t stop cold turkey. So why don’t we break it down into daily challenges this week.
Count how many times you say something negative about someone (behind their back). Even if it’s just a bad driver comment. At the end of the day, write that number down. Now imagine that was the number of times someone said something negative about you in a day.
Not such a nice feeling, is it.
Every time you say something negative about someone, try and say 2 things positive about someone, even if it just to yourself.
Try and tell a positive story rather than a negative one. Instead of “I had such a bad day at work because…” try “I really enjoyed hearing my favorite song on the radio.” I know, corny, but you get the idea.
Try and catch yourself before you say something horrible about the lady who cut in front of you at the supermarket. Find something positive to say about her, maybe it’s her shoes, or hair color. Anything.
Repeat Monday’s task. Is the number less? Now double that number. Try and think of that many positive things to say about someone you would normally say something negative about.
I truly believe we create our own happiness. If you’re having a horrible day, the only person that can make it better is you. If someone has done something to irritate you, think before you react. Is it really worth the stress?
If all you do is complain about your situation, do you really have anyone to blame but yourself?
Good luck! Let me know how this week goes.
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