Whether they’re in your child’s playgroup, in their class, at the local playground or even if it’s a neighbor, bullies are something we’re all going to have to deal with. My question is how do you deal with them?
My daughter is will be 3 in December and we’ve already had our run in with the local bully who is just a few month older. This bully, whom we’ll call Sam, pushes, hits, tackles, takes toys and yells at all the other kids. I’ve seen Sam clothes line a kid 2 years older and laugh at this little boy for crying. Sam’s mother likes to refer to her child as rebellious, independent, strong willed and self determined. The rest of us like to refer to Sam as a bully.
When my daughter is around Sam she always comes back bruised, both physically and emotionally. She’s acts out more after a play date with Sam, she’s uses words she wouldn’t normally use, and she doesn’t listen as well as she normally does. Because of this my husband and I have made the decision that would eliminate the interaction between Little L and Sam. This is easier said than done.
I have canceled play dates, plans to go to the park, and I will only make tentative plans, that I cancel at a later date, if I can’t come up with an excuse to say no.
I’ve thought about confronting Sam’s mother, but I can’t imagine she doesn’t see what’s going on. I mean come on! Sam has a very sweet younger sibling whom Sam bullies as well. I’ve seen Sam’s mothers reaction to the bulling of the younger child and it’s less than effective. She just giggles or tells Sam “please don’t”. Sam’s dad is even less than effective. He’ll give Sam a swat on the butt that Sam will proceed to laugh at.
We’ll continue to avoid Sam, even when little L asks about Sam. Tell us Mommies, how do you deal with Bullies?