Sounds silly doesn’t it. Seriously though, do you feel like you and your husband still “date”.
While I was standing in the check out line at the market today, I was browsing through my favorite gossip magazines and I spotted Redbook. Right there on the cover read the headline “How to date your husband, 5 ways to feel like you just hooked up.” WOW! Is this the same magazine that my Mom use to have a subscription to? Where’s the quilting article?
Do you remember how you felt when you first met your husband? How exciting it was to go out on those dates! Of course I love my husband, but I miss that feeling. Don’t you? Is it just me? Crap, I really need this article.
So along with my stack of gossip magazines, I tossed the Redbook on the counter, a little excited to get home and read it.
The article was about 5 married couples and their dating secrets. I’m going to give you a special gift today and share with you their wisdom.
1. Make time to get naked – Basically schedule your sex
My first thought was “Gosh, did I remember to put my Nuvaring in?” My second though was “Do people really schedule sex time?”
2. Point out what’s right not just what’s wrong – Every month sit down and have a relationship talk. The good and the bad.
I actually think this is a great idea. It’s easy to sit down and talk about all the good things, but what about sitting down and bringing up the bad stuff? This might be a good way to avoid counselling, but I also think having a mediator for these kind of talks might help. I tend to get a little defensive, having someone there to mediate the situation might make it easier on me.
3. Do your own thing once in a while – Take me time
This is my second favorite idea! I always feel better after a girls night out, or a girls trip. It’s also a little nice to actually miss my husband once in a while. Having your own interests helps to give you your own personal identity as well. We all need a little me.
4. Create you own happy hour – Meet your spouse out for a happy hour once a week.
My absolute favorite idea!!! I love getting cleaned up and going out with my husband, having a drink, and flirting with him. I love spending “out” time with my hubby! Having a kid, you just forget to take time for yourselves.
5. Flirt shamelessly with each other – Show affection to each other and compliment each other.
This one is definitely going to take the most work for me. I can admit it, I’m not good at giving or receiving complements. I’m also not very good at the whole reaching over and grabbing my husbands hand.
So what do you think? Will you use any of these ideas? What do you do to keep your marriage fresh?
Redbook also has a fun Sex & Love section on their website. Be sure to check it out.